You want romance and fun and frivolity now right?  You want to be swept off your feet and taken away for hot, sexy weekends and romantic picnics at the park. You want to be adored and pampered and loved.

You want someone who sees you as an equal and is not threatened by your success.  You want … a younger man.  Yes that’s right ladies, a younger man can give you all that and so much more.  So how do you get one? Read on and find out.

Jules Cobb in Cougar Town, like you, has been thrust back onto the dating scene.  And, like you, she has discovered that single men in their forties and beyond are damaged, gay or looking for a younger woman.  She’s not ready to become a nun, and neither are you, so why not become a cougar instead?

Jules epitomises all that a cougar woman is – sassy, sexy, confident, successful, independent and gorgeous.

You too can be like her and you won’t even have to drop your robe and flash your knickers on the street like she does to get the attention of a hot younger man.   Follow our advice and soon they’ll be begging you to take them back to your cosy little lair.

Confidence is a must for any self-respecting cougar.  Younger men like confidence in their older women.  They like to know you are in control, that you know what you want and how to get it.  How do you build confidence?  That’s easy.  Look after yourself.  Women who look good feel good and that’s attractive.  Go to the gym or do some other form of exercise.  Kick start those endorphins.  It’s sexy and intoxicating to younger men.

Next give yourself a makeover. Shout yourself some new clothes, get a new hair do and buy yourself some makeup.  Look at what gorgeous successful famous cougars like Demi Moore, Susan Sarandon and Cameron Diaz are wearing.  Go online for tips on the latest styles in clothes, hair and makeup and dressing to suit your body type.  Go for sexy glamour.  You want to look sophisticated and classy, not like a slapper.

Ok, so now you’ve got the look, how do you approach younger men and where?  The most obvious place is in bars and clubs.  Don’t be afraid to approach a younger man. They’ll be flattered that a sexy woman like you is interested in them. Ask him a question, compliment him on what he’s wearing, buy him a drink. Then let him do the rest.  He may be young but he’s a man and men like to take the lead sometimes.

The same applies anywhere you see a cub you’d like to get to know better. Let him know you’re interested, then let him do the rest.
If you want to be absolutely sure that a younger man will enjoy some sexy stalking,  why not try online dating.

Sites like cougared.com are pulsating with passionate and cute young men specifically looking for older women.  Why not send one a message and say hi?

Of course it won’t all be plain sailing once you’ve nabbed yourself a boy toy to play with.  While you both may be happily in lust, or dare we say it love, others will have their own opinions of your playful pairing, and they might not always be good.

Try not to take it too personally.  You don’t have to please other people. Remember be confident. Most ill feeling will be borne out of jealousy. Be yourself, be sensitive but don’t let other people’s feelings stand in the way of your happiness.

Of course if his mother is not happy, that’s different. Meet her and be empathetic.  Explain to her what you see in her son and reassure her you have her son’s best interests at heart by telling her how much you care about him.

He’s an adult remember and free to do as he chooses.

Demi Moore, the queen of the cougars, and her man Ashton Kutcher have been accepted not only by fans and friends alike, but also by her children and her ex-husband Bruce Willis.  It can happen and it can work.

And the more mainstream it becomes with programmes like Cougar Town leading the way, the more acceptable it will become. Life’s too short to miss out on a heap of sexy fun.  The secret is out. Beautiful older women and hot younger guys are hot. So get in on that action ladies, we know you want to.

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Someone like you. There are millions of real women like Jules.  So if you want to know where to meet hot gorgeous older women, read on.

Look around. They’re everywhere.  All it takes is confidence and charm and that sexy older woman of your dreams could soon be yours.

See that beautiful  woman chairing that meeting at your office?  By day she’s a high powered executive, by night she is a sleek, sophisticated cougar prowling the bars and clubs for a hot young cub.  It could be you.

What about that lycra clad, long limbed beauty at the gym?  You know the one.   She takes your breath away when she does her squats.

Ask her to join you for a coffee one day after your workout and you could soon be flexing muscles of a different kind.
But how do you know if an older woman is interested in younger guys?

That’s the hard part of course.  If you want to be really sure, let your fingers do the talking and go online. The internet is the easiest way to meet women and is the favoured hunting ground of cougars.
Dating websites are throbbing with thousands of gorgeous older women like Jules.

And while mainstream dating sites are fine, specialist sites like cougared.com where women are looking for younger guys are best.  You can’t fail on a site like that.

Cougared.com is a free dating site with 25,000 members.  A search of its site will bring up  thousands  of gorgeous women.   So what are you waiting for, get typing!

Another sure fire way of meeting cougars is through speed dating.  Most cougar websites will have arranged some speed dating.  Cougars are built for speed and dating this way is guaranteed to get you noticed.

Just be prepared when they pounce on you.

While the cougar, by its very nature is a solitary animal, human cougars can often be found hunting in packs in bars and clubs.  How do you approach them?  As you would any woman.  Buy her a drink, ask her to dance, pay her a compliment.

Prise her away from the pack and you could soon be sharing a cosy den of your own. Cougars can also be found at book clubs, in shopping malls, the library.  They might even be living next door.

So get out there guys.  You won’t regret it and your fantasy of dating a fit, fabulous and feisty older woman, could soon come true.   Cougars don’t bite … well not very  hard.

Case study: Todd and Maxine
Maxine wasn’t looking for a younger man when she met Todd, but he was definitely looking for her.  In her late 30s she had been dating on and off for years but had never considered dating anyone younger.  That was until she met a very hot young man called Todd.
“Todd asked me to dance in a bar.  He was gorgeous and I couldn’t resist, despite what was obviously a big age gap.  After a while we left the bar and went for a walk.  There was a full moon and we could hear and smell the ocean.  We sat on a seat and talked and kissed until the sun came up.  It was magical.”

The age gap didn’t come up that first night but the next night Todd rang Maxine from a noisy party.  It was a friend’s 21st birthday and when Maxine asked whether he had turned 21 yet, he said he hadn’t.  They talked age.  He was almost 21 and she was 37.  There were no objections on either side.

“Todd was fun.  He was extremely good looking, had a great body and the sex was great. He was also really intelligent.  We had a real connection and we used to meet quite often.  It was a pretty casual relationship, but it suited us both at the time and neither of us had any expectations of wanting anything more from it.

“My friends were so jealous.  They knew if I disappeared at the end of the night, I was off for a hot Toddy.   I had the time of my life.  It was great.”
Maxine has dated many younger men since then.  “They’re just so much easier and much more exciting than men my own age.  They’re fun, uncomplicated, appreciate my experience and they adore me, what more can a woman ask for?”

So with women they Maxine out there guys,  how could you resist?

Thirty years ago a cougar was simply a mountain lion.  A sleek, sophisticated, solitary cat usually found stalking the mountains of the Americas, searching for its next tasty morsel and ambushing and pouncing on it, before finally devouring it inch by delicious inch.

In the 21st century cougars can still be found stalking their prey.  But now the venue is usually a bar or club, the cougar is a 40 something year old woman and the prey a younger man. 

The prey in these instances however is more than willing, ready and eager to be stalked and devoured.
The high priestess of the mountain lions – the cougar – has come down from the wild to become the high priestess of the womankind.  Cougars are commonly women in their 40s, 50s and beyond who are confident and sexy.

They generally know what they want and how to get it.  And love it or loathe it, the term cougar it seems is here to stay.

Opinion is divided on how the term came about, but one explanation is that the term came from the Vancouver Cunucks hockey team who coined the term to describe the older women who came to their games.    That might explain why one of the scenes in the new ABC comedy Cougar Town is at a ball game.

It’s never been more acceptable for older women to date younger men.  In a survey conducted by AARP The Magazine, a magazine targeted at the over 50s, in 2003, 34 percent of women over the age of 40 were dating men who were at least 10 years their junior.

And there are many famous examples of this new kind of couple.  Demi  Moore, the queen of the cougars, married Ashton Kutcher in 2005, a man 15 years her junior .

Susan Sarrandon and Tim Robbins , who is 12 years younger,  have been together since 1988.   Cher has dated younger men for years and Madonna is currently busy worshipping Jesus, a man 29 years younger than she is.  She is, by the way 51,  he’s 22.  Her former husband Guy Ritchie was a mere 10 years younger than her.
These couples have really paved the way for older women and younger men to get together and have given the cougar dating scene an air of respectability and acceptability.

So if it’s good enough for them it’s good enough for us, right?   Absolutely, says Oliver Jameson, founder of the popular website cougared.com.  Jameson started Cougared.com in 2007 after reading about the growing trend of older women openly dating younger men.

“I had always thought it was unfair that men in their 40s, 50s and older could date women 20 years younger and no one batted an eyelid, yet when a mature woman dated a much younger guy, eyebrows were raised.

“The idea of cougared.com is to help older women meet younger men online.  It is a much easier way of meeting and the fact that everyone on the site is not only accepting of an age gap relationship, but is positively seeking one, makes it the perfect environment for younger men and older women to connect.

“The site now has over 25,000 members and the best part is that it is completely free with absolutely no hidden charges. In fact it is the only completely free cougar dating site with any significant membership base.”
The popularity of cougar dating shouldn’t really be a surprise to anyone.   It’s a well known fact that sexually men peak early and women peak in midlife.

In Cougar Town Jules Cobb describes single men her age as being either broken or gay and seeking younger girls.   A daunting prospect.  No wonder older women are turning to younger men.   And there’s no shortage of younger men looking to meet older women and vice versa.

Many books and websites have sprung up about the cougar dating scene and while they offer valuable advice and excellent tips, nothing makes anything become more acceptable, popular and mainstream than television.

Cougar Town  can only enhance and help older women and younger men get together,  whether it be for a lasting relationship or just a bit of casual fun.  So join in and have fun.  What have you got to lose?